the different ways of perceiving their external image and live this report are as many ways to deal with any inconvenience arising therefrom. Therefore the intervention of support given to the person you are helping relationship will be tailored to its needs, its potential, the particular time that is going through.
Here are a few examples (that have been authorized to tell by those concerned, obviously, not detectable) because it is clear what is spoken.
Marta acted for years with how self-defeating. Convinced of being so bad they do not have room for improvement, and not cared about their appearance very often, when he was still living with their parents (before coming to Tuscany to work), takes the old clothes of her elder sister. In family had financial problems, relatives Marta considered "good and modest" and that the "gratified".
With her we started right from the improvement (practice) of his image, which excluded the possibility Marta.
E 'was when, far from the city of origin for some time and a little' alone has had the "daring" and let that change the shape of the eyebrows. That way you can think, well, it's a change from anything! Eh, no, you had to hear it when work is finished, we saw in the mirror, 'Oh God, do not recognize myself, how do I get out so the street? "almost hopeless. Ah, I said, maybe it was a stretch, damn I would be reassured that eyebrows regrowth, what else could I do? Then, in the days after, at school, came the praise of her students and Marta began accepting the new, I got a call apologizing, is back and, little by little, he learned to put makeup on her eyes, she tried a new hairstyle ... and then was ready to deal with it What makes it so very insecure.
We spoke of her beautiful sisters, one major and one minor children, and admiration that makes people from an early age, the day when, twelve years old, aveva sentito la mamma affermare di avere "due figlie belle ed una molto intelligente"…"Avrei voluto fare la chef, mi sono costretta a studiare e laurearmi con il massimo dei voti per dimostrare che almeno intelligente lo ero davvero".
Marta sta lavorando tuttora all'elaborazione del suo disagio (i timori, le aspettative etc.) ma il punto di svolta rispetto al passato c'è stato ed è partito proprio dalla pratica di un cambiamento, in questo caso un piccolo miglioramento di aspetto, che lei si impediva di cercare per paura della delusione di non riuscire.
La mente di una persona è un sistema aperto ed in un sistema aperto una piccola variazione può generarne grandi.
Edward . intelligent and studious boy, very polite manner and speech, by week insisted that he wanted to bleach his hair blond and wearing on this for his parents was incomprehensible and unacceptable him with amber skin, jet black hair, the typical features of South America ...
her mom are very fond of because it was my first friend, eleven years ago in Milan. At that time she and her husband were still under the gaze of social workers, having recently adopted Edo. The relationships in the family were very calm until some time ago, during the first year of high school but the child began to have a care "exaggerated" her appearance, clothes to pretend to study the movements ... attitudes that puzzle my friend and her husband. The idea to dye her hair was the straw too ... I met with Edo, so I always had great sympathy.
Edo was aware that his discomfort stemmed from the fear of (his words) "be mistaken for an immigrant, possibly illegal immigrant." That is probably the greatest care and clothing from this myth of the "Nordic type." More difficult to say and instead tell me what bothered him that his treatment described his state of an adopted child. Even more feared the possibility of noticing the discomfort of its (very loved) parents. By Edward
work was done on a sense of what he felt and longed feared that this would not accept their influence on the issue.
"While we pursue the unattainable, we make the impossible achievable" (Robert Ardrey)
Edward will never be a Nordic type (light skin, straight hair, blonde, blue eyes maybe) and, most likely, that small group of bullies who had ironically nicknamed "Brad Pitt" wanted him to pay his excellent academic performance. And maybe the envy of the beautiful blond mother and the family some peace of mind "natural children" not found in their families ... from this different view of reality we can not (actually Edward did almost everything myself ...) to find a look that enhances her features so special and is starting to handle different situations that they put in difficulties.
With her mother's work was to lower the tension caused by the "strangeness" of her son, which should be resized because they are within that particular time that is adolescence, in which one can speak of "normally abnormal", just the difficulties of transition from childhood to adulthood.
Incidentally, when Edward began to respond to "Brad Pitt "Benicio Del Toro, thanks", it seems that not call him anymore.
Hello to those who read me and see you soon. 
adolescence aesthetic problems are of particular importance and cover the whole body .
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